Some people may say that same-sex marriage is no big
deal. That we should let the people do as they wish if they are not hurting
anyone else by their personal decisions.
It is kind of like the use of alcohol or drugs, it’s okay culturally,
until it hurts someone else. We can see
the victims of alcohol and drug abuse in the car accidents and other abuses
that happen while people are high or drunk.
The people that are hurt in same-sex marriage are not as easily to spot
as an accident victim or abused spouse.
They are also the ones that do not have a voice or a say in the matter. My
concern is for the innocent children in same-sex households. What we do as
adults affects our children. When
children grow up in a same-sex household they miss out on the experience of
having both a mother and a father. A
man, no matter how feminine, will never be a woman; and a woman, no matter how
masculine, will never be a man. We are born as male and female with innate
characteristics and abilities that our children need. Our Heavenly Father has
clearly specified that marriage is to be between a man and a woman. In Genesis 2:24, he says, “A man shall cleave
unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.”
A man and a woman as
husband and wife should procreate and bring children into the world. When same-sex couples have children, they are
not biologically one or more of the partners children. Whether by adoption, or
donor conceived the outcomes are not as bright for parents of same-sex couples.
Katy Faust is the daughter of divorced parents. Her mother had a same-sex
partner that she grew up with. She talks in an open letter to Justice Kennedy,
before the Supreme Court decision, about how same-sex marriages affect
children. She says, “When two adults who cannot procreate want
to raise children together, where do those babies come from? Each child is
conceived by a mother and a father to whom that child has a natural right. When
a child is placed in a same-sex-headed household, she will miss out on at least
one critical parental relationship and a vital dual-gender influence. The
nature of the adults’ union guarantees this. Whether by adoption, divorce, or
third-party reproduction, the adults in this scenario satisfy their heart’s
desires, while the child bears the most significant cost: missing out on one or
more of her biological parents.” Ms. Faust expresses exactly why we cannot and
should not take a nonchalant approach towards same-sex marriage and that is
that there are innocent children that will suffer the most. She goes on to say,
“Redefining marriage redefines parenthood. It moves us well beyond our “live
and let live” philosophy into the land where our society promotes a family
structure where children will always suffer
loss. It will be our policy, stamped and sealed by the most powerful of
governmental institutions, that these children will have their right to be
known and loved by their mother and/or father stripped from them in every instance. In same-sex-headed households,
the desires of the adults trump the rights of the child.”
When we let our adult
desires rule our culture instead of the rights of innocent children, we have
lost. We have implemented laws about
drugs and alcohol to prevent the use and/or abuse of such and problems that can
result from them. Why cannot we then
enact laws to prevent innocent children from having to deal with the
repercussions of being raised in a same-sex household? I know that we can, and
it is something that we will have to continue to fight for.
Even with the Supreme
Court decision granting the right of same-sex marriage to all states, we cannot
sit by and stay silent. We still need to
fight for the rights of the children in same-sex marriages. We need to continue to maintain our right to
speak openly about marriage between a man and a woman. We need to continue to
share our beliefs with those around us and with the future generations of this
world. You never know, they may just
change the culture of marriage to what God has intended.
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